Oldest

Fin and his vegetable snowman (when we had snow in January).  We didn't have coal and large carrots, so he had to settle for broccoli and baby carrots....he was pretty inventive. 

I’m already starting to hear myself say the dreaded words that I heard as a child.  You are the oldest, you need to set an example…I hated those words…being the oldest was like having a curse.  You were the one who had the set the example, the one blamed for everything, the one that got in trouble the most…being the oldest was hard.

Now I find myself in a mental quandary…I’m first a parent, yet I’m the one that knows exactly what it feels like for Fin.  Nick will be the one to identify with Griffey and his future frustrations.  Fin hasn’t shown his frustrations yet, so I don’t have that hanging over me at the moment.  I have that internal struggle knowing that I’m going to cause the same frustration in Fin that I use to have. 

Maybe it’s good that I’m having this internal conflict now and get over it before Fin starts to get frustrated and I can stand my ground.  I’ll have to do my Love and Logic research and see what their method of madness is.       

Comments

[Ashley]

I do have to say that you got blamed more for things then me. But I think, as far as I recall, mom and dad kept things fair. After all, I believe you often stole my food when I was little!!! You're a great mom, don't worry so much. Life isn't perfect and it's about trial and error.

[Leslie]

The snowman cracked me up--we had one with a pickle nose and teething biscuits for eyes once for the very same reason! Being a good role model for his brother is good practice for being a good role model for his peers.